Mathilde Lacombe

Here’s a quick fact for you: Most non-Vietnamese men will never get more than one date with a Vietnamese girl.

Why is that? In this article, I will try to give you some essential advice to follow that will help you avoid the common mistakes that most non-Vietnamese men make in dating and relationships with Vietnamese girls. Most of these are cultural, and I will explain the differences between Vietnamese women and the women you are used to dating.

The major problem for guys who want to date Vietnamese girls is the lack of understanding of Vietnamese culture. There’s a whole lot of things done differently in Vietnamese cultures, and each nationality has different traditions and heritage, though most are similar compared to Western culture. Vietnamese girls are usually very polite, have good manners and are modest – and they look for the same qualities in a man.

Take note of this. Two things are essential to remember:

1) Be confident, but not cocky. The ‘bad boy streak’ that often seems to appeal to white women does not appeal to Vietnamese women who are likely to be a little more reserved and formal.

2) Do not generalize. Every girl is different, and you should treat her as such. ‘Vietnamese women’ covers many, many cultures and not all girls live up to the ‘mainstream’ culture. Particularly younger generations have moved away from their parent’s traditions, which means they are more likely to be interested in your Western culture than their Vietnamese culture. Or it could be precisely the opposite, and she is very traditional. The point is not to generalize and assume things. Treat each girl as an individual.

Practical Tips For Dating Vietnamese Girls:

Do not put too much into the first date. If you are inexperienced with dating hot Vietnamese girls, don’t make the first date very formal and loaded with expectations. Keep it casual and do not feel like you need to make a great impression from the get-go. It’s a lot more common in Vietnamese culture to let things develop slowly trough hanging out together or with others as friends first. So, coffee or doing anything simple together really is a great approach.

Family is essential to Vietnamese. This is one of the main worries with Vietnamese girls that Western men do not respect this. Ask her a few questions about her family to show you do care.

Treat her like a Vietnamese, but don’t act like she is one. What that means is never say things like ‘I always wanted to date a Japanese girl’ or make other generalizations about Vietnamese. That isn’t very kind to most Vietnamese women, but do treat her the way she expects to be treated.

Expect to be in charge of what is going to happen. Could you not ask her what she wants to do? It’s up to you do make a suggestion and then ask if that is something she would like to do.

An excellent way to meet Vietnamese girls is to make friend with Vietnamese guys, who will then introduce you to their single female friends.

The last thing to remember is that every girl is different. This may seem obvious, but there is no one-size-fits-all approach except keeping these cultural differences in mind.